7 steps that helped me to manifest my dream life

Often I get asked how did I get from hating my body, my life, attempting of suicide, almost two decades of bulimia (eating disorder), toxic relationships and mental and physical abuse into owning 6 figure online coaching biz, having an amazing team, working with my soulmate clients and marrying the man of my dream in two months?

 

I wish there would be a simple answer that I could point you to so you too can create a life that feels abundant and fulfilling to you on the inside. And even though there is no magical wand I could use to wave and make your life right for you, what I can do is to share things that helped me on my journey.

 

Here we go:

1. Healing my inner child
   When we disconnect from our inner child that all it wanted was to be loved, heard, and seen, we recreate all these needs in our adulthood.
   What that means is that the hurt we were feeling when growing up (whether there is a big trauma, or your parents were just too busy to tackle you at night) those hurts are known for you and will keep appearing throughout your life. You will create those same feelings in your work, relationships, your health, your finances. Until you slow down enough to ask yourself:
   What is that I really needed to hear and feel when I was growing up?
   Allow the answers to come slowly to you, whether it is the same day or when you are not expecting it at all.
   Give yourself what you have needed when growing up. The love, the attention, the listening ear, the safety.
   Only when we reconnect with our inner child can we rise above and start attracting new things and people who are more aligned with who we are becoming vs who we used to be.
   
   
2. Forgiving myself and others
   So often we are holding on to past hurts and blaming others for who we are and where we are.
   Yet, when we are bitter towards others we are only poisoning ourselves with this bitterness. I have created a Forgiveness Framework that I teach my 1:1 clients and on my in-person events (if you want it email me at hello@petiakolibova.com)
   I allowed myself to forgive myself for how I treated myself and others in the past.
   I allowed others to be my teachers vs my abusers.
   I allowed myself to create space through compassion vs judgment.
   Who do you get to let go and forgive?
   
   
3. Became unapologetically ME
   Getting clear on who I am and what I stand for changed everything in my life! Knowing what are my core values and learning how to embody them was the foundation on how I was able to let go of what didn’t align anymore with who I am and who I am becoming. That clarity gave me confidence, that confidence gave me courage, and with courage my love, we are unstoppable.
   When was the last time you checked on your core values and if you are still living them?
4. Released my scarcity mindset
   Scarcity mindset isn’t only about money, even though it was a big part of my journey. Scarcity creeps in as not enough. I don’t have enough time, I don’t have enough money, I don’t have enough knowledge, I don’t have enough experience, let’s sum it up - I am not enough.
   That was one of the biggest blocks for me. Believing I am not enough, that I am not worthy and lovable.
   Until you realize that you can’t be outsourcing your worthiness and happiness you won’t be happy.
   How can you start celebrating abundance in your life? What feels good and expansive? What feels right at this moment? What is working?
   I created daily rituals for myself in the morning to feel abundant with time, I created weekly dates with money to heal my relationship with money, and these steps helped me to believe I can do and have my desires.
   
   
5. Let go of my need to do it alone
   Raise your hand if you ever thought to yourself - I can do this better than anyone else, I don’t want to bother anyone, I don’t want to ask for help so people don’t think I am weak, silly, or stupid.
   I am personally raising both of my hands love.
   Been the older sibling put me in the position that I will take care of everything, I will be here to help, serve, and not allow others to see me struggling.
   This led to burnout, mentally and physically struggling, and making me feel even more empty than ever.
   It was the moment when I asked for help, help in my life from my best friend to do my meal preps when being full time in work, working on the side as a personal trainer and working on my bachelor in marketing and later on my master in business administration, help in my business from VA who did my email funnels and help from several mentors and coaches. Once you let your ego on the side and allow others to serve you with your gifts you create space to live in yours. That my love makes you magnetic!
   
   
6. Trusting my intuition
   As women, we get often shut off to not feel our feelings. We are told we are too dramatic, too emotional, too much, not enough, etc.
   Those words from others get under our skin so deeply that we disconnect from our feelings, from our connection to ourselves, from our intuition.
   Our intuition is our divine right. Our intuition is our biggest guide and connection to our feminine wisdom.
   My intuition literally slapped me in my face when years ago I had a meltdown when my ex-boyfriend talked to a girl in a club where we visited his friend.
   I am not a jealous type as I always say - don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you - and go on with my trust.
   YET that night I cried for no apparent reason and my ex told me I am crazy, why am I so emotional and took me out of that club upset and embraced.
   Then I learned three years later via email from that girl he met that night that that was the first time they met and he had an affair with her secretly for the next three years.
   My intuition knew right from that first moment and I didn’t trust it.
   From that day of receiving the email, I promised myself to trust ME and what my intuition says.
   Where in your life your intuition talked to your loud and clear and you didn’t listen?
   Connect with that feeling in your body and let it guide you for the next time.
   
   
7. Healing my relationship with my body
   Our bodies are our temples, vessels we have chosen for this lifetime, yet we are treating it like we can just go and get a new one next month.
   I put my body under stress, pressure, self-hater for decades. From cutting my hands, bulimia, over-exercising, food restricting…
   The things I did to my body because I felt something is wrong with me and I am not perfect, are things I wouldn’t do to my enemy if I would to torture someone.
   Healing how you are feeling inside of your body. Learning how to be patient and loving with it is going to help you manifest your dreams.
   Because if you are feeling stuck and hating inside of your body, forcing it to change and be what it isn’t meant to be, you will lose your precious energy plus you won’t be showing up as the real you.
   And if you are not you how is the universe supposed to know who to deliver the gifts that are meant only for you?

 

These are some of the fundamental steps that help me on the past decade of my journey to rise above pain, hurt, doubt, and insecurities. 

I am still on my journey and I will always be. 

Because that is why we came here. To BE ourselves, unapologetically, to grow, to learn, to expand. 

 

Allow yourself to BE you my love and allow yourself to heal your past. 

 

Which one of these steps resonates with you the most?

 

Super open to hear from you! 

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