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Why you will never be ready

Ready is a lie as Angie Lee says. 

 

And I wholeheartedly resonate with this saying. 

 

We are so used to be in our heads that we completely disconnect from our feminine flow, from our intuition, trusting our feelings. 

 

It is your time to check in with yourself and understand what is not working anymore in your life, what can be released?

Create space for your true desires and follow your curiosity. 

 

It is so easy to stay in your head and think you are protecting yourself from even more pain and hurt. 

 

Yet my love, if you are not going into the world sharing your light and are not aligned with who you really are you are not only hurting yourself, you are hurting those around you. 

 

What would you do if you weren't afraid?

What would you do if you knew success is inevitable? 

 

Who would you be if you completely trusted yourself? 

 

BE that person now, take it one day at the time, one step at the time. 

 

Because my love, you will never be truly ready. 

 

The time is now. Learn to trust yourself and your intuition again.

 

How to master your energy

Mastering anything can seem daunting and also feel like it takes a lot of work.

 

Yet, your energy truly is your new personal business card.

Start using in a way that is aligned with who you really are and things will start becoming so much easier my love.

Here are some of my favorite ways on how to master my own energy:
 

1. Connecting to myself and my intuition daily
2. Including music daily
3. Breathwork
4. Grounding and slowing down
5. Asking myself what would I rather be doing

Which one of these can you start incorporating in your life even more?

 

Ps. We have a couple more spots open for my June 18th Abundantly Aligned retreat. 

See the link below to learn how this can transform your life. 

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How can you manifest all of your dreams

Have you ever dreamed as a little girl to be somewhere else, someone else?

 

I know I did. 

 

Growing up I always had my nose in books because they allowed me to escape the reality, the pain, the struggle. 

 

What was surprising for me along my journey is that pretending to be someone else isn’t the best way to abundance, freedom and fulfillment. 

 

It is the other way around. 

 

How I manifested the love of my life, the soulmate clients, the 3 workdays week, the 5 figure months, the traveling the world was by Being unapologetically me. 

 

What does that even mean?

 

Just think about how many times you were wearing a mask, when you were laughing at jokes that weren’t funny when you were pretending to be ok when you weren’t. 

 

Those were the times you abandoned yourself to give it all to others. 

 

Today I am asking you to switch that. 

 

Today I am asking you to reflect on these questions:

 

What do I truly desire?

 

Who am I when no one is watching?

 

What doesn’t feel right to me any longer?

 

What would my higher self do?

 

Let’s start reflecting on who you truly are because when you do so you are giving clear signs to the Universe of who you are and what you truly want in your life. 

 

It’s your turn, my love.

 

Ps. We have a couple more spots open for my June 18th Abundantly Aligned retreat. 

See the link below to learn how this can transform your life. 

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My journey from corporate to 6 figure online coaching business

If I would believe in accidents I might say that I became an entrepreneur by accident. 

 

Yet what life really taught me is that everything is unfolding as needed for us in our lives. 

 

As Steve Jobs said:

We can’t connect the dots looking forward, only looking backward. 

 

And that’s how I now understand all the life unfoldings in my life. 

 

Like toxic relationships and a failed marriage, like eating disorder and hating myself and my body, like a job that’s sucking the soul out of me, like working so hard on everything just so I feel deserving, like my superficial relationship with money and feelings of not-enoughness. 

 

All these things really showed me who I am, what I stand for and laid a foundation for me to BE me and where I am today. 

 

What if just for today you gave yourself permission to trust your journey, to trust yourself, and embrace who and where you are?

 

What is where you are exactly where you are meant to be, learning all that you need for the next steps?

 

Ps. We have a couple more spots open for my June 18th Abundantly Aligned retreat. 

See the link below to learn how this can transform your life. 

bit.ly/AbundantlyAligned

 

How to go from fear into the flow

Do you find yourself excited for new ideas and inspirations in one moment to in the next continuous moment feel overwhelmed and doubtful?

 

I know I had and so did my clients. 

 

Remember, our brains are not here to make us feel happy and fulfilled, they are here to protect us. 

 

It is imperial to drop into your heart and your body and in the moments you are doubting yourself ask yourself these questions:

 

Why not me?

Why not now?

What is the best thing that can happen?

What will this step allow me to do?

Who am I choosing to be?

How can I release control and allow flow?

 

Ask yourself questions that make you feel safe and that allow the next steps to unfold. 

 

You deserve to be fulfilled and that’s why I am reminding you that the sooner you align with who you really are, the sooner you can live a fulfilled life. 

 

Ps. We have a couple more spots open for my June 18th Abundantly Aligned retreat. 

See the link below to learn how this can transform your life. 

bit.ly/AbundantlyAligned

Redefining what trauma means

Nowadays for those who are on a personal development journey, we are hearing about healing and past traumas as the cause of us not being where we want to be. 

 

YET so many of us think that our past wasn’t a big deal and we pass on. 

 

We think that traumas are huge life-shifting events so we don’t think it applies to us. 

 

What trauma really is to me (and mind I am no therapist or doctor) is a life event when we felt hurt, abandoned, unseen and or unheard. 

 

As a little child, we look around ourselves and we want to feel protected, loved and seen. 

When we don’t have this we learn from what is and take it with us to the future and our future decisions. 

 

It can be as simple as your parents being too busy working and not having time for quality time with you in the past. 

 

As simple as not being invited to the birthday party. 

 

All these events are shaping how we are feeling about ourselves and those around us. 

 

I personally blocked so many things from my past, I didn’t want to remember, and it was not a conscious choice. 

 

Our minds are here to protect us and so it stores deep in our minds and deep into our bodies anything that could possibly harm us. 

 

It took me years of work (therapy, coaches, mentors) to uncover the things that I believed about myself and the world. 

 

How can you start looking into the past and give yourself permission to feel?

 

Because when we feel we heal. 

 

Remember, you are not alone on this journey.

 

Ps. Remember you came here to be the creator and live in freedom. 

And if you are not living in the freedom YET make sure to download my freebie The roadmap to Freedom where I teach how to get crystal clear on what you stand for so you can have a blueprint to make aligned and empowered decisions every step of the way. 

 

That means you will finally create the life of your desires and overflowing abundance. 

Download your free gift here:
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Why you are being selfish when you are not allowing yourself to receive

Why you are being selfish when you are not allowing yourself to receive 

 

We are raised in a culture that is rewarding to be strong, hustlers, independent, and not bother anyone with our needs or emotions. 

 

Where is this really leading us?

 

To people feeling alone, isolated, depressed, suicides…because people feel that they don’t matter, that they are not asked for help. 

 

Let’s break this cycle and create new ways of being. 

 

Ways where we are honoring other people’s gifts, where we ask for help, where we allow ourselves to receive. 

 

Where in your life have you built a wall to play it cool and do it all alone?

 

How can you bring this wall down and ask for support and allow others to also feel seen?

 

It’s your turn my love.

 

Ps. Remember you came here to be the creator and live in freedom. 

And if you are not living in the freedom YET make sure to download my freebie The roadmap to Freedom where I teach how to get crystal clear on what you stand for so you can have a blueprint to make aligned and empowered decisions every step of the way. 

 

That means you will finally create the life of your desires and overflowing abundance. 

Download your free gift here:
AbundanceActivated.com

 

How to process the grief

My love, when we are going through our sadness, grief, and pain we are never alone.

 

I am here today to take you with me on the journey of healing your pain.

 

As I am sitting here, 8 days after my dearest grandma transitioning, I know I am not the only one who had someone loved one departed.

 

Sharing with you today some things that are helping me on my own healing journey with grief.

 

1. Remember the good
   It is so easy to remember the pain, suffering or unexpected loss of our loved ones from this physical world.
   What I am inviting you today is to focus on the good, the memories that will your heart with joy.
   
   
2. Why is this better?
   It might sound crazy, yet, is it possible that your loved one departing can create a positive ripple effect?
   Is it possible that them departing created possibilities even more powerful, stronger and life-changing for you or others?
   
   
3. How can you soothe yourself?
   This emotional roller coaster can be challenging for your body, mind and heart.
   It can make you question things and even your beliefs.
   How can you honor where you are, who you are and your needs?
   
   
4. What are the things you used to do together you can now do by yourself?
   I used to call my grandma every single day. No matter what. Sometimes even twice.
   She is my Babygirl, my best friend, my free psychologist.
   Now that I can’t call her by phone in this physical world, I asked myself how can I still communicate with her.
   So I started to write letters to her in a journal.
   Ask yourself, what is that you used to do together you can do now alone?
   
   
5. Who can you talk to?
   Remember my love, you are never alone nor will be.
   We get to ask those we love and trust for support.
   They love supporting us and we deserve to receive this support.

 

I love you, I see you and I receive you my love!

 

Ps. Remember you came here to be the creator and live in freedom. 

And if you are not living in the freedom YET make sure to download my freebie The roadmap to Freedom where I teach how to get crystal clear on what you stand for so you can have a blueprint to make aligned and empowered decisions every step of the way. 

 

That means you will finally create the life of your desires and overflowing abundance. 

Download your free gift here:
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How to heal your relationship with your family

Have you ever heard that quote - 

Don’t look back you are not going that way?

I used to find this inspiring until I realized that I was constantly running. 

 

Running from myself, running from the past, putting all of the trauma and negativity under the rug so I can’t see it. And when we don’t see it we can’t feel it, right?

Not so much my love. 

 

In order to create an abundant life, you get to embrace it all. 

The past, present and future. 

 

You get to make peace with your past, acknowledge it and understand why you are who you are. 

 

One of the biggest parts that forms who we really are today are our parents. 

 

You might love them, hate them, ignore them, whatever you want, yet they will always be a big part of you. 

 

That’s why I want to share with you my three steps to heal your relationship with your parents so you can move forward in a direction that is really true to you. 

 

1. Take a radical responsibility
   You are the creator of your life and your experiences.
   I believe we have picked our parents before we were born to this world for the experiences we needed in this lifetime.
   So, if you have picked them, why would you blame them now? Isn’t it more empowering to be the chooser and creator?
   
   
2. See your parents as a little child
   It is so easy to point fingers at our parents because they didn’t meet our expectations.
   Would you though speak to a little child like you are speaking to an adult?
   Next time you think about or speak to your parents you imagine them as a little child vs an adult who you feel you have to prove and validate yourself to.
   
   
3. Distance yourself from those who weigh you down
   You don’t serve anyone by dining your light.
   BE the change you want to see in the world and others will be inspired by you.
   Even when it means to distance yourself from those who can’t meet you where you are.
   Love them, stay connected, and create boundaries that feel right to you. 

I would love to hear from you. What is your relationship with your parents? 

Have you ever gone through or desire to heal your relationship with your parents? DM me on Instagram @petiakolibova or shoot me an email at hello@petiakolibova.com

 

Ps. Remember you came here to be the creator and live in freedom. 

And if you are not living in the freedom YET make sure to download my freebie The roadmap to Freedom where I teach how to get crystal clear on what you stand for so you can have a blueprint to make aligned and empowered decisions every step of the way. 

 

That means you will finally create the life of your desires and overflowing abundance. 

Download your free gift here:
AbundanceActivated.com

7 steps that helped me to manifest my dream life

Often I get asked how did I get from hating my body, my life, attempting of suicide, almost two decades of bulimia (eating disorder), toxic relationships and mental and physical abuse into owning 6 figure online coaching biz, having an amazing team, working with my soulmate clients and marrying the man of my dream in two months?

 

I wish there would be a simple answer that I could point you to so you too can create a life that feels abundant and fulfilling to you on the inside. And even though there is no magical wand I could use to wave and make your life right for you, what I can do is to share things that helped me on my journey.

 

Here we go:

1. Healing my inner child
   When we disconnect from our inner child that all it wanted was to be loved, heard, and seen, we recreate all these needs in our adulthood.
   What that means is that the hurt we were feeling when growing up (whether there is a big trauma, or your parents were just too busy to tackle you at night) those hurts are known for you and will keep appearing throughout your life. You will create those same feelings in your work, relationships, your health, your finances. Until you slow down enough to ask yourself:
   What is that I really needed to hear and feel when I was growing up?
   Allow the answers to come slowly to you, whether it is the same day or when you are not expecting it at all.
   Give yourself what you have needed when growing up. The love, the attention, the listening ear, the safety.
   Only when we reconnect with our inner child can we rise above and start attracting new things and people who are more aligned with who we are becoming vs who we used to be.
   
   
2. Forgiving myself and others
   So often we are holding on to past hurts and blaming others for who we are and where we are.
   Yet, when we are bitter towards others we are only poisoning ourselves with this bitterness. I have created a Forgiveness Framework that I teach my 1:1 clients and on my in-person events (if you want it email me at hello@petiakolibova.com)
   I allowed myself to forgive myself for how I treated myself and others in the past.
   I allowed others to be my teachers vs my abusers.
   I allowed myself to create space through compassion vs judgment.
   Who do you get to let go and forgive?
   
   
3. Became unapologetically ME
   Getting clear on who I am and what I stand for changed everything in my life! Knowing what are my core values and learning how to embody them was the foundation on how I was able to let go of what didn’t align anymore with who I am and who I am becoming. That clarity gave me confidence, that confidence gave me courage, and with courage my love, we are unstoppable.
   When was the last time you checked on your core values and if you are still living them?
4. Released my scarcity mindset
   Scarcity mindset isn’t only about money, even though it was a big part of my journey. Scarcity creeps in as not enough. I don’t have enough time, I don’t have enough money, I don’t have enough knowledge, I don’t have enough experience, let’s sum it up - I am not enough.
   That was one of the biggest blocks for me. Believing I am not enough, that I am not worthy and lovable.
   Until you realize that you can’t be outsourcing your worthiness and happiness you won’t be happy.
   How can you start celebrating abundance in your life? What feels good and expansive? What feels right at this moment? What is working?
   I created daily rituals for myself in the morning to feel abundant with time, I created weekly dates with money to heal my relationship with money, and these steps helped me to believe I can do and have my desires.
   
   
5. Let go of my need to do it alone
   Raise your hand if you ever thought to yourself - I can do this better than anyone else, I don’t want to bother anyone, I don’t want to ask for help so people don’t think I am weak, silly, or stupid.
   I am personally raising both of my hands love.
   Been the older sibling put me in the position that I will take care of everything, I will be here to help, serve, and not allow others to see me struggling.
   This led to burnout, mentally and physically struggling, and making me feel even more empty than ever.
   It was the moment when I asked for help, help in my life from my best friend to do my meal preps when being full time in work, working on the side as a personal trainer and working on my bachelor in marketing and later on my master in business administration, help in my business from VA who did my email funnels and help from several mentors and coaches. Once you let your ego on the side and allow others to serve you with your gifts you create space to live in yours. That my love makes you magnetic!
   
   
6. Trusting my intuition
   As women, we get often shut off to not feel our feelings. We are told we are too dramatic, too emotional, too much, not enough, etc.
   Those words from others get under our skin so deeply that we disconnect from our feelings, from our connection to ourselves, from our intuition.
   Our intuition is our divine right. Our intuition is our biggest guide and connection to our feminine wisdom.
   My intuition literally slapped me in my face when years ago I had a meltdown when my ex-boyfriend talked to a girl in a club where we visited his friend.
   I am not a jealous type as I always say - don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you - and go on with my trust.
   YET that night I cried for no apparent reason and my ex told me I am crazy, why am I so emotional and took me out of that club upset and embraced.
   Then I learned three years later via email from that girl he met that night that that was the first time they met and he had an affair with her secretly for the next three years.
   My intuition knew right from that first moment and I didn’t trust it.
   From that day of receiving the email, I promised myself to trust ME and what my intuition says.
   Where in your life your intuition talked to your loud and clear and you didn’t listen?
   Connect with that feeling in your body and let it guide you for the next time.
   
   
7. Healing my relationship with my body
   Our bodies are our temples, vessels we have chosen for this lifetime, yet we are treating it like we can just go and get a new one next month.
   I put my body under stress, pressure, self-hater for decades. From cutting my hands, bulimia, over-exercising, food restricting…
   The things I did to my body because I felt something is wrong with me and I am not perfect, are things I wouldn’t do to my enemy if I would to torture someone.
   Healing how you are feeling inside of your body. Learning how to be patient and loving with it is going to help you manifest your dreams.
   Because if you are feeling stuck and hating inside of your body, forcing it to change and be what it isn’t meant to be, you will lose your precious energy plus you won’t be showing up as the real you.
   And if you are not you how is the universe supposed to know who to deliver the gifts that are meant only for you?

 

These are some of the fundamental steps that help me on the past decade of my journey to rise above pain, hurt, doubt, and insecurities. 

I am still on my journey and I will always be. 

Because that is why we came here. To BE ourselves, unapologetically, to grow, to learn, to expand. 

 

Allow yourself to BE you my love and allow yourself to heal your past. 

 

Which one of these steps resonates with you the most?

 

Super open to hear from you! 

Send me a DM to my Instagram @petiakolibova or email to hello@petiakolibova.com